When you reach middle age, please put away your softness.

there is a sentence in the movie the Godfather: "softness without boundaries will only make the other party gain an inch; kindness without principles will only allow the other party to do as he pleases." In this life, you should be kind, but don't be too soft. Otherwise, connive at others, but hurt yourself. Especially in middle age, time and energy are no longer as abundant as they were when they were young, and they should learn to pay their limited feelings to people who are worth it. When you reach middle age, please put away your softness. Not everyone deserves your softness. A voice like this is always heard in life: "thanks to the people who tripped you, because they achieved your glory; thank those who hurt you, because they taught you to be strong." As everyone knows, the person who tripped you will only feel cool behind his back, and the person who hurts you will never feel your desolation. It is true that not everyone in this world is worthy of your softness. Netizen @ Heidi Once shared the tragedy caused by unlimited softness. Heidi originally had an enviable job with a high salary in a famous company, and he was a middle-level leader with a bright future. She is responsible for the department and live sales docking, is the core department of the company, once there are mistakes, suppliers and the company will suffer huge losses. Once, an employee of the Heidi department, because of carelessness in marking down the price of a piece of clothing, caused the supplier to lose tens of thousands of yuan. Afterwards, the department director investigated the blame, and the employee found her and pleaded with tears. The employee told her that her family conditions were very difficult, her parents-in-law were sick, her children went to school, and her husband could only get a basic salary because of the epidemic, and the whole family made money on their own. On hearing this, Heidi felt compassion and promised to help the staff take things down. She told the director that the broadcast accident was caused by her poor management, which had nothing to do with the employee. Heidi originally thought that the company would compensate for losses and withhold bonuses in accordance with the previous system, but she was prepared not to take quarterly bonuses. It never occurred to me that the supplier complained about this to the boss, requiring the company to severely punish the key personnel who caused the live broadcast accident. In order to protect the reputation of the company, the boss had to issue a dismissal order. At this time, Heidi went to the employee and asked her to help explain and intercede with the company for understanding. As a result, instead of feeling guilty, the employee fought back and killed Heidi because of the broadcast accident. Finally, due to the lack of conclusive evidence and the fact that Heidi had put all the blame on herself, she was fired from the company. The employee stayed in the company with peace of mind and continued to work. Jin Yong wrote in the Book, Sword, Grace and Revenge: "in the rivers and lakes, people are sinister and treat friends, of course, benevolence and righteousness comes first, but if you treat a villain with a soft heart, you will be fooled." Kindness to the wrong person, can only be deceived; soft to the wrong person, will only hurt themselves. Not everyone knows how to be grateful in the world. When you reach middle age, don't be soft on others easily. To be soft on people who are not worth it is to hurt yourself. The writer Zhou Guoping told the story of a "scoundrel" in his book when you learn to be alone. Once, the scoundrel borrowed a sum of money from a friend. A few days later, when his friend urged him to pay back the money, he blushed and shouted, "Why do you care so much that you have come to extort debts after only a few days?" The friend smiled awkwardly and felt that as a friend, he should really consider each other, so he pressed not to mention it. Three years later, when a friend urged him to return it, the scoundrel shouted angrily, "how long have you been so concerned about it?" In the end, the scoundrel not only failed to pay back the money, but also told everyone that his friend was stingy, inconsiderate and unfriendly. The more he talked, the angrier he became, and finally announced to everyone around him that he was going to sever relations with the man who was "unworthy" to be his friend. In this way, the friend had the good intention to lend money to the scoundrel, but as a result, the scoundrel defaulted again and again, leaving a bad reputation for being "stingy". A voice of kindness, because the heart is soft, but finally hurt yourself. Dong Qing said: "if you are good enough to be unreserved, the other party will dare to be unscrupulous." All one's life, not everyone is worthy of your attention. Some people, often take advantage of your soft heart, unlimited harm to you. When they are free, they ask you to pick up a courier "by the way". If you refuse, you will be ridiculed and unfriendly. They ask you to buy something "by the way", but you complain that you don't buy what you want. Kindness should also be divided into people, and don't be the same to everyone, otherwise it is tantamount to encouraging others to do evil. Once upon a time, a farmer sat by the water and found a scorpion fell into the water. Without hesitation, he reached out to pick up the scorpion, only to be stung by the scorpion. Later, the scorpion fell into the water frequently, and the farmer was afraid that the scorpion would be drowned, so he repeatedly salvaged it, but as a result, the scorpion did not die, but the farmer was poisoned by the scorpion and died. I can't help thinking of the story of the farmer and the snake. The farmer mercifully saved the snake, but the snake killed the farmer mercilessly. The writer Guiyuan once wrote this sentence: "this is a game of life and death, and she is soft-hearted, but he is resolute, and in exchange for it in the end, it is a total loss." The greatest stupidity of human nature is boundless tolerance. In a society where the law of the jungle is the prey of the jungle, it is not because you are patient with others that they will be soft on you. When you reach middle age, it is the greatest kindness to keep yourself from hurting others. When one reaches middle age, one learns to be cruel to people who are not worth it. Meryl Streep, a famous movie star, once said: "I am no longer patient with certain things, not because I have become proud, but because my life has reached a stage and I don't want to waste any more time on things that make me feel unhappy or hurt me." Take it for granted that when people reach middle age and half slope, life becomes heavy and soft on people who are not worth it, and they will increase their consumption because of this bottomless goodwill. Just like a survey conducted by Harvard University, it found that: If a person learns to refuse reasonably, he can reduce unnecessary trouble by more than 90%, and will not waste a lot of personal time and wealth. For the rest of my life, no longerPlease, learn to refuse, is the beginning of loving yourself. Qigong, a master of calligraphy and painting, knows this very well. At first, he was embarrassed to refuse the beggar's request, and he responded to almost everything, regardless of his rank or inferiority. Later, more and more people asked for words, which seriously affected his work, and he realized that he could no longer be soft, otherwise he would only add to his troubles. Once, a well-known art dealer visited Qigong's home and asked for his works. Mr. Qigong knew full well what he meant, but he smiled and asked the art dealer, "what can I do for you?" The painter casually replied, "I've come to see you." After listening to Qigong, he went to him and turned around twice. He even raised his foot and let the art dealer see it all over. Then he smiled and said, "after reading it, please go back!" Although the art dealer was helpless, he could only leave with a wry smile. From then on, he often refused to face the people who came to ask for words. Instead of wasting his energy on outsiders, he spent half his life loving his wife. He and his wife snuggle up to each other in daily life. After his wife fell ill, he took care of him with the nurse during the day and went home at night. He sat on the chair in front of the hospital bed and accompanied his wife day after day. Even in the 30 years after his wife's death, he was immersed in deep thoughts. When you reach middle age, be hard on those who are not worth it, pay less unnecessarily, and devote more time and energy to yourself and important people. Yi Shu has an excellent saying: "I have only one life, and I can't give generously to people I don't love." Softness is not a bad thing, but when it comes to middle age, if you damage yourself because of softness, it is not kindness, but stupidity; if you do not know how to weigh because of softness, it is not atmosphere, it is self-abuse. Remember, your soft heart should be left to someone who deserves it. ▽ Finally, I would like to share with you two verses of Gu Cheng: "roses wear sharp thorns and do not turn into thorns. It just defends its Chunhua from being ravaged by wild animals. " To be soft is to cultivate one's own self-cultivation; to refuse is to tell others that you are not stupid. When people reach middle age, they learn to be kind and tolerant. To give up unnecessary softness is a person's greatest wisdom. 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