A man who can talk wins as soon as he opens his mouth.
Cai Kangyong once mentioned in the way of speaking: "the more you can talk, the happier others will be, and the happier they will be, the more they will like you; the more people like you, the more help you will get, and the happier you will be." It's true. Everything has its cause and effect. When you are alive, to keep your mouth moral is to keep your own fengshui. The power of speaking can only play an appropriate role on the right occasion, and most of the time, silence is golden. Really smart people never say these seven words. Abstain from mourning words in front of people What's it like to be with people with negative energy? This is described in the garbage truck Code: Many people are like garbage trucks, running around with garbage, frustration and grievances. When their garbage is full, they need to be dumped, and if you give them a chance, they will dump it on you. And the so-called rubbish is bereavement. People who live in complaints are like living in rainy weather, never seeing the coming of the sun. There are a lot of complaints in front of people, every word is negative, not only the speaker is upset, but also the listener. If you want to go uphill in life, you must first heal your heart and face the rest of your life with a positive attitude. Often complain, the heart is full of pain, darkness and despair; abstain from mourning, the world is full of sunshine, hope and love. The queen abstain from gossiping. There is an old Chinese saying: Those who say that people are right and wrong are those who are not human. When she saw a girl coming home late, she spread gossip that "this person does not love himself", but he did not know that he had to work two jobs because he was in urgent need of money. When they saw that the children of their relatives had found a good job, they gossiped that "they must have got it through a relationship", but they did not know that they had made too much effort in places that others could not see. When he saw his friend take off his wedding ring, he gossiped that "she must have had an affair", but didn't know that she was just trying to make it easier for her to work. Long mouth in their own body, but life is other people's life, gossip too much, their own days will not be quiet. Don't speculate when you don't know the truth; don't judge when you don't know the whole picture. Behind people, no gossip, no prejudice, is a person's top self-cultivation. Abstain from crazy talk for others What people fear most is not that it is difficult to reach the peak, but that they are arrogant. Standing halfway up the mountain, talking madly and taking yourself too seriously, you will often fall to the bottom of the valley in the end. People are too arrogant, it is easy to see themselves; words are too full, easy to find a way out. Be cautious when you are in your heyday, and put your mind at ease when the situation is adverse. The more incompetent people are, the more defiant they are. if they boast too much on weekdays, they will sooner or later lay the root of trouble for themselves. Put aside arrogance, abstain from wild words, be above others, treat others as human beings, and treat yourself as human beings. People live a lifetime, only by keeping a low profile and humility, not showing the mountains without dew, can we go for a long time. Abstain from angry words in case of trouble Have you ever had a moment like this: Because I didn't go well at work, I felt upset to see the greetings of my family when I got home, so I vented all my anger on the people who were closest to me. Because the child has made a small mistake, so you use up all the abusive sentences to teach him a lesson Because there is a conflict with a friend, you come up with the most vicious words to curse her, so as to relieve yourself of your unhappiness. Encounter things only according to the mood to deal with, solve the problem only want to vent emotions, eventually all the problems will be tied to a dead knot. Angry words, like sulfuric acid, corrode the relationship between people and blur the most essential cause of things. No matter what happens, in a state of anger, you should learn to think of others instead of acting emotionally. People who can't control their emotions will eventually ruin their lives, and those who don't say bad words when they are angry are really mature. There is an old saying that is true: To be quick for a moment does not necessarily mean that you have the upper hand. If there is glory in the face for a while, you may not win it all. Abstain from a slip of the tongue Remember that in the sitcom Seinfeld, there is a classic passage: George volunteers in a community nursing home. He is going to help an 86-year-old man. The old man's partner died a long time ago. Although he lived in a nursing home, he was very happy. George was very puzzled when he saw the situation. The old man had experienced so many things, but why didn't he have any sorrow? So he kept asking the old man: "are you afraid? You know you don't have a few years to live, right? Are you not afraid at all when you are so close to death? You must be in pain, right? " At first the old man was silent and did not answer, but at last he could not bear it. He only said one word: "get out!" The writer Caroline Taggart once said: The so-called talking is like a game. Like a very relaxed beach volleyball, when the ball comes to you, everyone has a chance to hit the ball, and when they happen to be in the best position to hit the ball, they can contribute their own strength. And those who speak without discretion, every ball they hit, every strength they contribute, do tons of damage to their teammates. Walking in the world, grasp the sense of size, do not slip the tongue, is the highest state of life. Abstain from going back on one's promises There is a question on Zhihu: what is the best quality to interact with people? One high praise replied: be a reliable person, do things at ease, promise not lightly, do not miss great things. If a person often breaks his promise, breaks his promise, and "stands up", he probably won't stay in the circle of friends for long. After all, sincerity and trustworthiness are very important for people to get along with others. Pay back the money within the agreed time, and the next time you are in trouble, others will help you in time. There is a reason for what you have promised others, and when you need it in the future, others will help. Integrity, is the embodiment of character, reliable, give people peace of mind. Keep your word, change your heart for your heart, and others will treat you the way you treat others. Practice the mind and precepts and talk too much During the Spring and Autumn period, King Zhuang of Chu ruled the state of Chu for three years, but did nothing in his political achievements. Sima Jin said: "there is a kind of bird that does not spread its wings, fly, sing or sing for three years. What kind of bird is this?" The king of Chuzhuang replied, "the purpose of not spreading your wings for three years is to enrich your wings; not to sing is to observe the attitude of the people." If you don't fly, you will soar into the sky; if you don't sing, you will be a blockbuster. " Half a year laterThe king of Chuzhuang was pro-government, made great efforts to govern the country, and finally let the state of Chu dominate the world. These are the fruits of spiritual cultivation and the power bestowed by silence. After half a lifetime, I like silence more and more, build a meditation, and make myself stronger and stronger. It is better to be in the middle than to speak too much and count the poor. The depth of the water is silent, and a man is silent. When people reach middle age, they give up the noise, adjust their life to silent mode, and watch the flowers blossom and fall with an ordinary heart. As the saying goes: he who can talk wins as soon as he opens his mouth. Speaking is a spiritual practice, just like drawing a bow and archery. A degree of relaxation is a better choice. What is hidden in your language is your attitude towards the world. Only when you keep your mouth shut and be cautious about your words and deeds, can you deal with everything in life in an orderly manner. May you have a good mouth, good fengshui and good luck.
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