People's hearts are mutual, know how to think of others, and it is easier to win-win.
above the point When a blind man touches an elephant, someone touches the elephant's foot and says that the elephant's body is like a tree trunk. Some people touch the trunk and say that the elephant's body is like a water pipe. Someone touched the ivory and said that the elephant's body was as moist as jade. It's no one's fault, it's just a partial generalization. The same is true between people, different positions, different levels, what they see and think will have a deviation. At this time, no matter how forceful words are used, it is difficult to overturn other people's judgment that seeing is believing and experience. This is how many contradictions in the world come about. Therefore, the cleverest way to resolve contradictions is just two words-transposition. Transposition is the cleverest way to solve contradictions. Lu Xun said: "the joys and sorrows of human beings are not the same." There are often differences in birth, age, identity and experience between people. So we always say, "there is no such thing as empathy." From your own point of view, you can only see one-sided; from your own point of view, you are often unable to resolve the contradiction. In marriage, the husband wants his wife to be gentle and virtuous, and the wife wants her husband to be responsible. In the workplace, employees hope that the boss does not talk about ideals, and the boss wants employees to be positive. In the taxi, the passengers complained that the driver was driving too slowly, and the driver complained that the road was too congested. No one is wrong, but the location is different. If people always want to change others and do not know how to reflect on themselves, it will only aggravate the existing problems and worsen the contradictions between them. Finding a reason for everything from yourself is easier to solve the problem. Thinking of others is also a process of self-reflection. Therefore, it is not only to consider others, but also to liberate oneself. Transposition is the integration of EQ and IQ In ancient times, Zi Gong argued with the people of the three seasons all morning, but could not persuade him to agree with his view that "there are four seasons in a year." Confucius said, "there are only three seasons in a year", which settled the quarrel and sent the idle people away. Anyone who has common sense doesn't know that there are four seasons in a year. The people of the three seasons expressed their fallacies to Zi Gong in the hope of being affirmed and approved. In this way, why not, like Confucius, agree to the harmless opposition as soon as possible. There is a saying like this: "never explain yourself to people at different levels." There is no need to argue about matters that have nothing to do with principles, and there is no need to explain things that have nothing to do with the bottom line. Life is too short to waste your time on someone who isn't worth it. If you let others go, you are kind to yourself. Those who are really smart can always find the source of the contradiction in the first place. Those who have high EQ are always good at insight into human nature and simplifying everything. Transposition is the integration of EQ and IQ, which can make life smooth. For the sake of others, it is easier to win-win. Once read a story: in the dead of night, a blind man lit a lamp, waiting for her husband to come home. When the husband got home, he wondered, "you can't see it, so why do you light the lamp?" The blind man said, "because I can't see, I gave you the lamp. Your wound hasn't healed yet. Don't bump it again." When a blind man lights a lamp, it does not illuminate his own world, but it warms a relationship. In life, many feelings are ruined by not knowing how to think of others. When what is given by others is not what we want, no matter how good it is, it will be greatly discounted, and vice versa. Knowing what others really need with your heart will often achieve twice the result with half the effort. Life is an echo, a fulfillment of others as well as self-achievement. People's hearts are mutual, know how to think of others, and it is easier to win-win. Be kind to life, and life will give back with kindness. ▽ There is a cloud in the title Xilingbi: "across the winding mountains, there are steep peaks, and there are thousands of different ways to see the height and height of the past." Look at the scenery in the eyes of others, to find the same angle position. When you disagree with others, you should look at and think about the problem from the position of others in order to solve the problem at its root. Transposition can turn swords into swords and resolve all contradictions in the world.
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