People with bright thinking have no permanent dilemma.
Let's look at a picture first. If you were asked what you saw, what would be your first reaction? A black spot? In fact, this is a question that UN Secretary General Kofi Annan was asked when he was a child. At that time, he and all the students in the class replied, "I saw the black spot." The teacher shook his head: "the black spot is only such a small piece, and there are so many white areas around it. Why don't you see it?" Let's take a look at another class. A teacher wrote four questions on the blackboard: 2 /2 /2 /4 Four, four, eight. 8: 8: 16 9: 9: 19. The students read it and said one after another, "teacher, you have miscalculated." The teacher looked up unhurriedly and said: "Yes, you can see it very clearly. I have miscalculated this question, but the first three are all right. Why does no one see it and just stare at my miscalculated one? " Why tell the above two short stories? Because human nature has a weakness: Focus more on what went wrong than where there were bright spots. Just like there is a small black spot on a piece of white paper, bright white occupies most of the time, but most people only see that small black spot. Just as students turn a blind eye to the teacher's right questions, they pay more attention to the teacher's mistakes. This is people's habitual thinking. It is precisely because of this habitual thinking that it is difficult for us to see the bright spots hidden beneath the surface. And those who can learn to change with the situation and find the bright spots in the midst of chaos are all great people. Once, writer Lin Qingxuan passed by a mutton stove shop and was suddenly stopped by the shop owner: "Mr. Lin must not remember me." Lin Qingxuan said awkwardly, "Sorry, I really can't remember where I've seen you before." At this time, the shopkeeper talked about their meeting 20 years ago. At that time, Lin Qingxuan worked as a reporter in a newspaper, went to social news and found a thief with a very delicate modus operandi. After the thief was caught, the police took out a stack of photos of the theft case for him to identify, several of which he looked at and said: "this is what I did, this is my style." He glanced at the photos of some rooms that had been turned into a mess and said, "I didn't do it. My technique is not that thick." So Lin Qingxuan went back to write a special article and could not help feeling: "A thief with such a fine mind, such a dexterous technique, and such an outstanding style, and so gentle and bold, if you don't become a thief, you will achieve something in any line of work!" The thief was the owner of this donkey meat shop at that time. He said sincerely to Lin Qingxuan: The special article written by Mr. Lin broke my blind spot. I thought: why didn't I want to do the right thing except to be a thief? After several years in prison, he came out to open a shop, and now there are already several branches. Mr. Lin, one day you will treat me to mutton! " Afterwards, Lin Qingxuan said with great emotion that he did not expect that a report written inadvertently 20 years ago had made a young man go to the light. Most people scoffed at the thief, but Lin Qingxuan saw the courage of the thief. This is the bright spot of thinking. Self-media author @ Singularity is not strange Say: "the bright spot thinking is to find the bright spot in the chaos and embrace the light through the bright spot." People who are really good know how to find the bright spot first. For example, if you are a parent, you will see your child's exam results: three excellent, two good, and one passed. How would you react? At this time, most parents will blurt out, "Why did you do so badly in this course?" Did you wander off in class? " However, few parents praise their children for being excellent in three subjects and ask him how they did so well in these subjects. Bacon once said: "there is a morning glow in the heart of those who appreciate it, and desolation in the heart of those who ignore it." People with "bright spot thinking" can find a bright spot in anyone. You may have heard the story of Tao Xingzhi. Once, when Tao Xingzhi saw two children fighting at school, he immediately came forward to stop it, and then told the beating child to wait for him in the office after school. After school, Tao Xingzhi came to the office and saw the child standing there trembling. At this time, he took out a candy from his pocket and handed it to the child and said, "this is for you, because you arrived on time and are very punctual." Before the child could put the candy in his pocket, Tao Xingzhi handed the second candy to the child and said: "this is also a reward for you, because when I don't let you hit someone, you stop immediately, which shows that you know how to respect your teachers." Then Tao Xingzhi took out another piece of candy and said: "I have just investigated. You beat him because he bullied a female classmate, and you helped him with a knife. This is called bravery for righteousness, and it is also praiseworthy." The child was stunned after receiving the sugar. Did he hit the right one today? Tao Xingzhi continued, "Let me ask you, is there a better way than beating him at that time?" The child said, "I didn't have to hit him at that time. I just pulled them away. It was my fault. I won't be so impulsive anymore." Tao Xingzhi smiled with satisfaction and took out the last candy: "you can correctly recognize your mistakes, very good, I will reward you again, people are not saints, no one is infallible, knowing mistakes can be corrected, and there is no greater good." Although the child got into a fight, he was not without merit. Therefore, Tao Xingzhi, knowing that the child hit others, was still looking for his advantages, and finally took good advice to make the child aware of the mistake. The book Behavioral Design: zero cost change says: "highlight thinking can help us improve our problems." Whether in life or at work, get along with others, don't always focus on other people's mistakes. Knowing how to appreciate the advantages of others shows that you are a person with light in your heart. Someone in Zhihu once asked, "what causes the gap between people?" One of the highly praised answers is: "different ways of thinking." A person's way of thinking is related to the pattern of his behavior and the outcome of his life. In a paper mill in Germany, there was an accident in the process of producing paper-- forgot to add paste, so the paper was too oozing to be used and could only be scrapped according to regulations, which brought irreparable losses to the company. The factory director was very angry. At a time when everyone expressed regret, there wereOne employee thought, "can only watch these papers be scrapped like this?" Can you find a way to make use of this batch of waste products? " After thinking about it over and over again, the employee came up with an idea: since this paper is easy to seep, it would be better to change it to absorbent paper. As a result, the company produced a new product, which sold well. Other employees of the company only thought it was a pity that the paper was scrapped and focused on the water seepage, but no one thought of changing the use of the paper. This is to fall into a fixed mode of thinking, they can only see the failure, do not see the opportunity hidden in the failure. I remember what Liu run said: "mediocre people change results, good people change causes, and the most advanced people change their minds." Don't rush to say "impossible", try to think about "how to find the bright spot and make it possible". The difference between a master and an ordinary person is not his ability, but whether he has a bright spot of thinking. People with bright thinking have no permanent dilemma. They are good at jumping out of the current predicament and seeing the bright side of things. ▽ Wang Wei, founder of Shunfeng, once said: "it may be accidental for a person to succeed once, but if he can succeed for a long time, it must have its own uniqueness. It may be different from others in terms of thinking and behavior." When you are in deep trouble, try to look at things in a "bright spot" way. Everything is good at finding advantages from disadvantages, but at the same time, it can turn disadvantages into advantages and turn disadvantages into advantages. In the end, all problems will turn into opportunities. Share with your friends.
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