No matter who you marry, please exchange these 7 questions with each other first.

No matter who you marry, please exchange these 7 questions with each other first.

May you all share your heads with affection in the rest of the year.

two days ago, I talked to my cousin about marriage.

she said a sentence that touched me very deeply:

"in the past, the elders of the family could only say that you liked it and would only ask us to open our eyes, but they never told us what to look at."

I wonder if your parents are the same?

only allows you to choose your partner well, but rarely tells you how to choose your partner better and how to maintain your marriage better.

Today, I would like to share with you some small details that you need to know in advance in your marriage. May you have a good marriage and enjoy your life.

about family circumstances

Jane Austen has a very reasonable saying:

"in marriage, it is absurd to think only about family means, but it is foolish not to consider family means!"

the family situation here refers not only to the amount of money in each other's family, but also to the values of the other family members, the way they get along, and so on.

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the atmosphere of the original family will exert an imperceptible influence on a person's life, which goes deep into the bone marrow and is difficult to change.

both men and women often go to each other's house before getting married.

take a look at ta's childhood environment; see how ta's parents usually communicate with each other; and see how ta's family style is, which often determines what ta looks like after marriage.

you marry, or you marry, not only one person, but the whole family behind, you must be careful.

about money

money is not everything, but the indisputable fact is that money can solve most of the obstacles in your life.

there is a metaphor that I think is very vivid.

money is like the fat that surrounds the utilitarian world.

when you encounter the impact of life, collision in the world.

money can help you slow down your misfortune, reduce your disappointment, reduce your harm, and even help you retain your loved ones and loved ones.

without money, you are afraid to buy what you like; when you meet the love you want, you will be restricted by money; when you get married, it is easy to cause a lot of conflicts because of money.

and when you have money, you can buy whatever you like when you are in a good mood, and you can also buy whatever you like if you are in a bad mood.

when you meet someone you like, you can confidently say, just give me love, and I have my own bread.

in marriage, you can also be more rational and confident.

whether there is love or not, whether you enter the marriage hall or not, trying to make money is something you can never give up.

can we understand each other's efforts

Last year, a mother of two jumped from a building with two children.

she left a long last note in her moments, revealing despair between the lines.

is roughly like this: she has to do a lot of things every day, but her husband never sees her efforts, thinks that what she does is no big deal, and often denies and criticizes her.

being unable to see each other's efforts is a great inducement to this tragedy.

as Yi Shu said:

"what dizziness is upside down, vows of love, without encouragement, will disappear, who will love for free for a lifetime."

Don't take the other person's contribution for granted, try to see and affirm it.

about details

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told such a short story:

one day, when he was washing his face in the bathroom, he saw his wife's bath ball rotten badly. When I went to the supermarket, I bought a new one easily.

I lost the old one without telling my wife when I got home.

after taking a bath in the evening, the wife told her husband with a smile that she was very happy.

later he found out that it was because of this little bath ball.

for this, my wife was happy for several days.

then it dawned on him:

Marriage is really in need of management, old man, can make money, is a passing basic line, how can you make a person happy? Wash more dishes, cook more meals, tell children more stories, make each other happier.

the afternoon tea for the author's nap has such a view that I like it very much:

people often shout "the itch of seven years". In fact, the "seven-year itch" should be changed to "seven-year support". If there is an "itch", feelings need to be carefully "nurtured".

even for an old husband and wife, don't forget the romance of the details.

give each other a hug before going out; buy a small bouquet of flowers to decorate the room before coming home from work; pass by his wife's favorite dessert shop and bring a small cake; the husband likes sports and spends more time exercising with him in his spare time.

Life is nothing small, pay attention to every detail of life, marriage will be more romantic.

how to assign housework

to maintain a family, two people should always work together.

there is nothing for a husband to do, and nothing for a wife to do.

in many cases, the breakdown of a marriage is not due to an affair or a change of heart.

what is more is that in the daily life, we forget the pleasure of getting along with each other, complain in the trivial, disappoint in the trivial, and give up in the trivial.

husband and wife life is like walking with a bucket of water. If one side exerts no force, or exerts very little force, then the balance will be out of balance.

spend more time together, don't let each other live into an island, so that the relationship can last.

can you accept the other person you are now

have you ever tried to transform your partner?

never. In fact, you can't change each other.

each of us has our own preferences and habits. If you want to transform the other person, it will only make him more and more disgusted.

Junichi Watanabe once told a story.

but his wife is a careless person, every day when squeezing toothpaste, often leaving a lot of marks.

after a long period of time, a war between husband and wife broke out.

everyone's way of life is different, don't always try to force each other to live according to their own standards.

French philosopher Montaigne once put forward a very sharp point about what a good marriage is:

A good marriage must consist of a blind wife and a deaf husband. "

means that in marriage, if you can maintain insensitivity, do not pay too much attention to each other's words and deeds, tolerate each other's minor shortcomings, and do not impose your own way of life on each other, the marriage will last a little longer.

about companionship

there is a popular saying on the Internet:

it's raining in the city where you live. I'd like to ask if you have an umbrella. But I held back, because I was afraid that you didn't bring it, and there was nothing I could do, just like I love you, but I couldn't give you the company you wanted.

in reality, how much separation is not because of lack of love, but because of lack of companionship.

without company, there will be no communication, no communication, no feelings.

all the good feelings in the world, to put it bluntly, is that you participate in me, I integrate into your process.

most of the time, what defeats love is not betrayal, but your experience I am not involved in, and you do not understand my mental journey at all.

the feelings of interaction, dependence, interdependence and mutual support are more meaningful.

A grasshopper in one rope can better realize the true meaning of being in the same boat and helping each other than two butterflies flying alone.

I like a sentence once said by French writer Moaro:

"Marriage produces life, love only produces happiness, happiness disappears, marriage still exists, and gives birth to a more valuable value than the marriage of men and women."

Marriage is a long journey in one's life.

although the process may be a little difficult, we still need to try our best to study, manage and deal with the difficult problem of marriage.

, may everyone share their heads with affection for the rest of the year.